Embracing my curls with the curly girl method

For many years I’ve struggled with my curly hair. Frizz has always been a problem, no matter how many products I’ve tried, both cheap and expensive. I’ve always envied girls with straight hair that always looks really nice while I’ve constantly battled to make mine look half decent. Trips to the hairdresser have always been stressful, unless it’s to get a blow dry.  And even then my hair only lasts about half a day straight, or I’m left looking like an 80s rockstar with super big hair. Isn’t it amazing how few hairdressers know how to deal with curly hair?

Then one day a couple of months ago, I came across the Curly Girl method online and it was a bit of a revelation. The Curly Girl method is based on a book of the same name written by Lorraine Massey

In a way it’s quite an easy method to follow, you just need to learn to check product labels to make sure the products you are using are CG friendly. The basis of the method is very simple, get rid of silicons and sulfates and your hair will be moisturised and looking super healthy.  Silicone ingredients end in -cone, -conol or -xane. For example: dimethicone, dimethiconol, and cyclopentasiloxane. None of these are water soluble so they can not be used in the Curly Hair method. However if a silicone ingredient is prefaced with PPG or with PEG it is water soluble and therefore CG friendly. For example  PEG-8 Dimethicone is ok.

I have put together an infographic pointing out how to follow the method step by step.


In the Curly Hair method shampoo is only used for the final wash, see step 1 above. After that, you only wash your hair using conditioner. Like with any other method, it’s all a bit trial and error, and about finding the products that work for your hair. Amazingly a lot of the cheaper conditioners and styling products out there are silicon free so you won’t necessarily spend a fortune if you decide to follow it. These three products here have worked wonders for me the past couple of months. John Frieda Curl Reviver, OGX Defining Cream & Shea Moisture Restorative Conditioner. The Shea Moisture conditioner is a bit on the expensive side but a little bit goes a long way.  With winter round the corner it will be interesting to see if my frizz stays away or if I need to try new products.


I’ve been following the Curly Girl method since early August and even though I’m not following it strictly – I’m still using shampoo – I’ve seen an amazing transformation in my hair.  Apparently, it can take months before you see improvement in your hair so you really need to persevere. This is my hair about 8 weeks in, you can see that my curls are really defined and that I’ve hardly have any frizz.


After forty off years I’m finally embracing my curls and I’m starting to love my hair a bit. I even had a stranger come up to me and say they loved my hair!




  1. October 19, 2017 / 8:55 am
    This is so interesting! I've never heard of the Curly Girl method. I'm mixed race and have curly hair, I mostly manage to avoid frizz now but if it's a humid or muggy day I still can't stop it from frizzing. I was my hair every other day (shampoo then conditioner) and every second day I cowash with just conditioner. I usually use a detangling brush while I've got conditioner on my hair, if I only used my fingers it would get really tangled and then it starts to dread itself up! When I get out the shower I touch it as little as possible, I just run some shea butter through it (I use Fekkai Essential Shea Creme which is a bit pricey but the best I've found) and then let it dry naturally. Can I ask what you mean when you say 'final wash'? I don't quite understand the routine you follow - do you wash with shampoo then use two different conditioners every day?
    • spanishmummy
      October 19, 2017 / 9:07 pm
      Hi Amy, I'm not following the curly girl method too strictly so I still use shampoo & conditioner. I then add OGX defining cream to my hair and then I use mousse. The key is to use sulfate & silicon free products, they will make a huge difference to the condition of your hair. The final wash is only if you follow the method strictly, you use shampoo for one last time to clean your hair properly and then use conditioner instead of shampoo. I use Cantu shampoo which is silicone & sulfate free and then SheaMoisture as a conditioner.

Leave a Reply